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Decorum on the Web – What’s So Tough to Understand?!??!?

I am simply amazed at the lack of decorum some have shown recently on blogs and on bulletin boards that I frequent. The fact that it is becoming commonplace to go well beyond ‘constructive criticism’ and get downright nasty is just a sign of how far this medium still has to go . . .

I’m a true believer in free speech and have been for quite some time, having been in a nice tussle in high school over an underground newspaper a few of us put together – and had the ACLU come to our defense to try to keep publishing it . . .

But free speech without boundaries simply causes chaos. And many feel that there is a sense of ‘anonymity’ on the web and therefore can say whatever comes to their mind – no matter how hurtful and potentially slanderous it may be . . .

Where, might you ask, am I seeing this behavior? No, not on political blogs and bulletin boards where one might think that tempers would flare and people would be at each other’s throats. No, this behavior is taking place on wine blogs and boards – windbreaker and erobertparker to name just two.

This type of behavior simply makes me want to stop frequenting those boards and taking part in the discussion. It’s sad because I really do enjoy the give and take of many of the discussions that take place, but all it takes is one or two folks, and one or two discussions, to sour the whole vibe. . . .

I’m hoping this is a temporary ‘thing’ but I’m not so sure . . .

Have you also seen an uptick in rude web behavior in the past few months? Share your thoughts and comments please.


5 responses to “Decorum on the Web – What’s So Tough to Understand?!??!?”

  1. Karien O'Kennedy says:

    Unfortunately social media provides an outlit for people to have testostorone displays. What you put into words for others to see is often a reflection of your inner self respect. Nothing wrong with a strong opinion, but be prepared to back it up with facts and not personal attacks. I suppose there is something such as common decency – some people just don’t have it. Having said all this, it is really quite liberating if you had a bad customer service experience, to read others complain about the same thing in a “colourful” way.

  2. Donnieboy says:

    Just wanted to drop you a line to say, I enjoy reading your site. I thought about starting a blog myself but don’t have the time.
    Oh well maybe one day…. 🙂

  3. kempozone says:

    Im sure many of you are like me and one of the first things you do in the morning is head here and check out the new post. Along with seeing the new posts, I’m also always checking out the blog roll rss feed and watching them grow, or shrink sometimes. In one of my past …but all in all excellent site. Keep it up!

  4. Yes I’ve seen abhorrent comments in many, many locations across the web. The good news is that for you and I and I’m sure for many others, it defines the ignorance of the “writer” ~ and readily assures that the success found through Social Media will elude those individuals ~
    All best today
    Sian Lindemann
    Sian Design

  5. WineWonkette says:

    While I agree with you about civility and decorum, there is another matter that needs clarifying in the U.S., especially. Americans are under the misguided belief that the Constitution provides them the right to say whatever they want, wherever they want, whenever they want. But the law only provides that the government will make NO LAW abridging the right to freedom of the press and free speech. It does NOT mean one can go on another’s blog, or radio show, or television broadcast (which is owned by the entity and/or regulated by the public agency) and write or say anything he likes without ramifications.